Today I'm eating a big slice of humble pie (I hope it's lemon flavoured).
Some of you may have read my rant a few days ago about parenting experts.
After that I read comments (two in particular by Zoey and Sarah) on Bern's blog that made me feel like a terrible parent.
I started to wonder when I turned into the parent I never wanted to be...
one that yells, nags, smacks and loses patience too quickly.
I had a sook about it on Twitter.
And after some excellent advice from Bern and wise words from Yvette Vignando I had a change of heart.
For the past two days, I have been much calmer with my 'high maintenance' boy. I haven't raised my voice, I haven't acted aggressively towards him, I haven't 'lost it'.
I have not let the frustration take me over.
And surprise, surprise...he's been much calmer too.
He has been less aggressive towards his sister.
He has had the biggest tantrums he's had for ages, but I've just let him ride them out.
I didn't react, I didn't respond, I just let him get over it.
I'm not saying that I will always be like this, but I am going to try harder to be.
Then last night I watched this...
Yvette Kerri Lana from Yvette Vignando on Vimeo.
And I had an epiphany....don't we all love a good epiphany?
Whenever I get my back up over hearing/reading something I don't like...that's actually when I need to listen.
I read once (who knows where) that the things that annoy you most in other people are likely to be the issues you need to deal with yourself.
Know-alls annoy the hell out of me.
So I guess maybe, I'm a know-all?
Oh, that pains me to admit!
My husband is always telling me I never say sorry or admit when I'm wrong,
and he's right, I don't, I rarely think I am wrong!
Arrogance is the other thing I can.not. stand...
so I guess....
Oh God, it's getting worse.
Really, I don't profess to know it all, far from it.
But I do have a problem with being told...
I don't like to be told how to do something, or worse,
that I'm doing it wrong!
So today, I just want to thank Bern & Yvette & Zoey & Sarah (Maya_Abeille) & Kerri & Lana
AND (I'm trying so hard not to be begrudging) Michale Grose for 'speaking to me'.
Sometimes I need to shut up and listen.