Have you heard of Michael Grose? His website and blog tell me he is Australia's no.1 parenting educator, although I have to wonder how you know you're no.1 in that particular field. But anyway, I did hear quite a bit about him when I was teaching and my son's school is a big fan of his and regularly includes his ideas and suggestions in their newsletter and e-mails.
This morning as I checked my e-mails I found one from the school entitled 'Developing Junior Independence'. I had a quick read because Michael Grose is an 'expert' and a lot of what he has to say is good stuff. This morning, however, something he said got my back up, raised my hackles, made me wonder if I'm a bad parent. And this is my main problem with parenting experts, they often make me feel like a bad parent because I don't like being told what to do. Don't get me wrong, I do not for one minute profess to know it all. I am certainly no expert myself. And these 'experts' probably do help a lot of parents, I hope. But today he just made me cranky. What did he say? This...
Remember REDUNDANCY is your aim as a parent!
I don't know about you but this just doesn't sit well with me. I understand the intention. Yes, of course our children need to be independent eventually. But do I really need to be redundant? I don't want to be redundant, ever! I want my children to know I'm here for them forever, if they need or want me. I just have an issue with that word. It's so cold. Is it because he's a man? Do men have a more practical sense of parenting? Dads, what do you think??
If you'd like to see his blog you can find it here.