You know that most annoying phase that toddlers go through?
Where they don't know how to share and everything is about them?
At least they grow out of it, right?
My boy is turning six next month and yet he still exhibits some toddler behaviour.
Not all the time and he doesn't outwardly appear babyish.
Quite the opposite, in fact.
He seems more mature than his almost six years.
But he also seems to be lacking in compassion and sensitivity in the same way that toddlers are.
I wish I could drum it into him.
I say all the usual things...
"Think about others."
"You're not the only one that counts."
"How would you feel if..."
"You've just made so and so sad."
"Everyone is important."
"Don't be too bossy."
"Share with your sister."
"Don't deliberately annoy people."
"Stop hurting your sister."
One of the things that stuck in my mind when I read copious amounts of toddler books was,
"Ignore the behaviours you wish to desist."
That never worked with him, never.
He has persistance and tenacity like I have never seen before (and I have taught hundreds of children).
I guess it's getting to the point where we need to consider testing.
I knew that if he really does have Aspergers the behaviours would become more obvious as he grew older.
There comes a time where you can't blame it on toddlerhood anymore.
I need more information and help with how to deal with this kind of behaviour.
Because screaming at him and trying to force him to be compassionate isn't working. Funny that.
I'm not sure whether he just doesn't care about others or he just can't care.
I'm leaning towards the latter...and that breaks my heart.
Because one of the things I wish most for my children comes straight from one of my favourite movies, Moulin Rouge...
To love and be loved in return
As a parent you don't want anything to be difficult for your child.
Especially not this.