"I'm your mother, not your friend."
This is something I've heard many mothers say.
And it has always made we wonder, does that have to be true?
I know that she is still very little, and most of our communication is still in the 'play' phase.
And I also know that once she hits her teens, or tweens even, that things are likely to change, dramatically!
But when my Miss 4 and I were playing in her room this afternoon and I said,
"You're my best friend," her eyes lit up and she said, "Really? Am I really your best friend?"
She has been calling me Best Friend ever since.
We've been through the constantly saying, "I love you," stage. Although she still says it pretty often, which I love!
We're at the constantly asking, "Do you still love me?" stage. Mostly when she's in trouble for something.
And I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if sometime in the future we hit the, "I hate you," stage. I remember saying that many times to my mother.
Yes, I know, there is a significant difference between the role of a parent, and the role of a friend.
But I think it would be lovely if there was always an element of friendship in the relationships I have with both of my children.
They know I can be Cranky Mum, Fun Mum, Silly Mum, Serious Mum, Helpful Mum and Comforting Mum.
Why can't I be Friend Mum as well.
Can't we wear each role like a different hat or set of glasses?
I have a dream for the future that my grown up kids will want to do things with their dear old Mum & Dad.
I'd love to do coffee and go shopping with my daughter.
I'd love to go to a movie or a show with my son.
I've never had that kind of friendship with my parents.
Please tell me you can.