As parents it is our job to form good habits in our children, right? We should be training our kids to sleep well, eat healthily & be out of nappies by 3, right? And to do all of this we should be sticking to tried and tested methods taught to us by the parenting experts, right?? Bah!
I'd like to suggest that trying to form good habits in small children is a load of...(I could use so many words here)...nonsense! Honestly, how many 'habits' have you carried over from your early childhood to your adulthood? If you were a good/bad eater are you still a good/bad eater? If you were a good/bad sleeper are you still a good/bad sleeper?? Perhaps you are but I'd also like to suggest it has nothing to do with whether you were or were not as a child. You see, you have this thing called free will, and no habit can withstand the power of free will. It's a good thing, as you grow and learn you make decisions for yourself about everything. Some parents think that if they develop healthy eating habits/good hygiene habits/etc that they will stick for life. Habits schmabits....they can disappear in an instant. Why focus on habits? A good head start however is a completely different thing and I wholeheartedly agree that as parents we need to focus on showing/teaching/modeling good & healthy behaviours to our kids. It's just the word 'habit' that I have a problem with.
The other thing that really riles me is any talk of training...sleep training, potty training, toilet training...animals are trained, not children! I suspect the only parents who really believe in 'training' are those that have had dream children and believe that it was because of their 'good training' that they turned out this way. I'm just going to chuckle and say, "Sure, you're an excellent parent, well done!" For those of us who have children that won't eat or sleep no matter how much 'training' we give them, we know better!
And frankly, parenting experts mostly just
Call me crazy but I think it's much more important to have happy, healthy, respectful children (and parents) than perfect ones. I believe my job as a parent is to raise, not train, my children. To love them, care for them, tend to their needs, talk to them, listen to them, answer their questions, play with them, help them, teach them, encourage them, praise them...and when they're ready, in their own time, they'll get it, they'll catch on, they'll be able to do all those things you never thought would ever happen. If you're doing most of these things most of the time you can't mess your child up too badly, surely. I have never seen a 21 year old wearing a nappy, sucking their thumb, needing a bottle to go to sleep or sleeping with their parents *shudder*.
That's all I wanted to say. Shoot me down in flames if you feel you must. But I'd really love to hear what you think.
I might just run away and hide for a bit then come back when I'm brave enough to read the comments....see ya!