Thursday, December 2, 2010

Can You Feel It?

There has been a lot of sadness around me lately.
This has been a tough year...losing two family members...and Mum having a heart attack.
So maybe I'm emotionally sensitive.
But some of my online friends (that's pretty much all I have these days) have been suffering and I feel their pain.
Miscarriage, suicide, the loss of siblings, the loss of babies, infertility...
All of these things are so painful, and when I hear or read about people I care about dealing with them, I hurt.
My heart physically hurts.
My body feels heavy.
I'm enveloped in sadness.
Is this normal?
I'm sure not everyone *feels* others' pain.
My husband for instance, hears this kind of thing and just shrugs his shoulders.
I'm not saying I feel as bad as those it's affecting.
My pain is fleeting in comparison to those living with it daily.
I don't pray a lot, but I do pray for people who are suffering.
I pray that they are wrapped in angel's wings and feel the warmth, love and comfort of people who care.

So I'm just wondering if anyone else literally feels the pain of others, too.
Is it a personality type thing?
Is it a female thing?
Is it just me being weird??


  1. Sweetie its not a personal thing I go through the same as well especilly with close friends like you & others on twitter.

    (((( Hugs ))))

  2. Thea, you sound a lot like me in this post. Something I have come to realize since I've not been working is that I tended to take on everyone else's emotions and I just felt so exhausted by it. So, I'm not sure if it's a girl thing or an emotional thing but it sounds like you need a bit of an emotional break.



  3. There's such a fine line between just being there for people and letting other peoples problems weigh you down.

    I've been guilty of getting too involved with other people's lives and letting myself become emotionally drained as a result.

    Lately, I've been trying to deal with my own stuff more and try to take time to think about my own needs. I'm not sure if that's selfish or not, but I still make sure I'm there for the people that need me. I just try not to get too consumed in all the bad stuff.

    It's really hard. And I do think it's more a female thing - we're all guilty of becoming too emotionally involved in stuff that isn't always our business!

    You're not weird at all. Totally normal. Just make sure you take some time out for you and don't let yourself be dragged down xxxx

  4. In some respects I think the world the world may be a far nicer place if everyone had more empathy for others. But as the others said feeling and dealing all those emotions can be exhausting.

    So, please remember to look after you, too.

  5. I feel it most especially if it involves children hurting. It actually physically hurts my chest.

    Sometimes I wish I didn't care so much, it would make life easier. But that would mean my heart would have to harden.

    I think the world would be a much better place if everyone could feel the pain of others a little more.

  6. You my sweet sister, have a compassionate heart ... as do I

  7. Like Michelle says - you're a very compassionate person. A wonderful trait.

    I will often read about something that's hurtful to someone and can't get it out of my head and feel terribly bad for them. It will be there in my head all day. I think women are a little more sensitive to this kinda stuff than what men are. I know that sounds a generalisation, but I think it's quite true.

    I have a friend who literally lies awake at night worrying about children starving in other countries etc. I think it's amazing she does that.

  8. You are an amazingly compassionate person.

    People close to me have had suffered loss and terrible heartache this year, and I have felt it more this year than any other. I think though, that there has been more pain this year, so sharing the pain of those you care about is more deeply felt.

    may 2011 bring joy, good health and positive experiences to you, and to those you hold close.


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